“To be yourself…

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson


I believe that is one of those difficult things to do. So many times we find ourselves in a decision of  who we are and who everyone wants us to be. As I grow older I find myself really not caring what everyone else wants me to be and care more of who God and I  want myself to be. The younger version of myself not so much.  I remember always worrying about what everyone thought of me. Social functions were a killer. I never felt comfortable with myself always wondering if I was good enough, smart enough, pretty enough. Why do girls do that to themselves? I am sure I am not the only one. High School was horrible for me. Never felt like I fit in. I had friends but always seem like I was looking from the outside in. After High School I felt more confident but still always had that social awkwardness. Dating was worst. Settled for less because I never felt like I deserved more than that. That cycle continue until my thirties. So many questions would flood my mind. Am I accepted? Do I look good enough for this crowd? Is my hair ok? Do I laugh to loud? Am I skinny enough?

When every doubt and insecurity floods your mind it is easy for others to convince you to be someone you’re not. They can change who you are just so you fit in or be part of the in crowd. I think we should be taught from an early age to look in a mirror and say the line from “The Help” movie. ” You is kind, you is smart, you is important.” And maybe add you are beautiful, brave and so courageous. You are God’s child you can do anything with him. Can you imagine if you said those words everyday to yourself. How can you not be confident after saying those words? So I leave you with this. Be yourself no matter what because you are kind, smart, important, beautiful, brave, so courageous and a child of God.